Understanding Bengali culture: Bad left hand, bad!
To save yourself from embarrassment, the general rule in Kolkata, and pretty much the rest of India and Bangladesh is always use your right hand when eating and when giving to or receiving from another person.
The main reason for this is because Indian society associates the left hand with wiping one’s ass. (Side-note: I’ll address the Eastern bathroom experience in the near future, because I think it deserves its own post) Add the fact that toilet paper is a rare commodity reserved for Western-style hotels and businesses, and more the reason why desis view the left hand with negativity. It is, however, completely acceptable to give and receive things with both hands. Don’t ask me why . . . although I am an ostensible ABCD who asks too many questions, that doesn’t mean I always get answers. Most often people will not say anything if you use your left hand, especially if you are a foreigner, but they will definitely take notice. Using your right hand will give you cred because it shows people that you are “in the know” and respect their culture. To all the lefties, I’m sorry but you are SOL. In India and Bangladesh even lefties are encouraged to eat with their right hand as much as possible.
Examples of things you are allowed to do with your Right Hand (Daan Haath):
1. Eat
2. Pay someone
3. Receive change
4. Give or receive gifts
5. Preening a child or loved one
6. Shake hands (with people of the same sex . . . when greeting the opposite sex, a small bow with Nomoshkar/Salaam or hello is acceptible)
Examples of things you are allowed to do with your Left Hand (Baa Haath):
1. Clean yourself after using the toilet
2. Hit a stray dog who is bothering you
3. Serve food using servings spoons or tongs
4. Umm, well . . . pet the beeral, shuffle the iPod, slam the clam, choke the moorgi
5. Clean your cat’s or your child’s vomit
6. Scooping kitty litter (although most cats you encounter in the subcontinent will be strays and not pets)
The left hand stigma is so prevalent that I remember my friend’s toddler-aged nephew who was just developing his fine motor skills started to use a fork with his left hand and his dad disapprovingly commented on how he had to train him to use his right hand so he doesn’t develop “bad habits.” That situation and countless others like it led me to believe that many South Asians believe that hand-dexterity is a habit, not an innate characteristic. I did a quick Wikipedia search and found that Bengalis aren’t the only people who associate left-handedness negatively. For the record, I absolutely love people of all hand-dominances! In fact, Obama is a lefty. I wonder how he navigates shaking hands with foreign leaders from cultures that discriminate against left-handedness.
Hiya I’ve been struck by this and I think it is a form of discrimination. Basically I read that where soap and water are in short supply etc you keep the hand which is dexterous for more difficult tasks like eating and use the less good hand for easier (which happen to be) less clean tasks…So as most people are right handed the system makes sense and so this has become the culture. BUT according to the logic, if you are left handed you should switch round. It ought to be seen as rude if a left handed person takes something with their right hand or eats with their right hand. It’s kind of like the attitude to homosexuals in India that they don’t exist, everyone had to conform to a norm.
I agree, it makes absolutely no sense to discriminate people based on inborn traits and sexual orientation. I think the mentality in South Asia is due to two things mainly . . . a) lack of education about genetics, b) a blind acceptance of long-held convictions without the courage and curiosity to ask questions and challenge those beliefs. Hopefully with globalization (more people traveling in and out) and technological advances (phones, internet), these types of discussions will have a further reach and challenge these ancient beliefs.
It’s funny you mention this. I grew up in Virginia and a child in the family was born left handed. His grandfather was adamantly against the use of the left hand and came from a family (he was white with blond hair so I have no idea the nationality) that believed it was a sign of evil to use the left hand. One day he caught the child eating with his left hand (using a fork) and told him he was holding it wrong. The kid was maybe 3 and took the fork in his right hand, acted like any kid would and made a big mess then proclaimed to his gpa “no, see it doesn’t work like that.” We all busted out laughing. You gotta love the kids. I can only imagine what this kid may have encountered in India.
Haha! Wisdom often comes from the mouths of babes, right?
In that Wikipedia article I linked to, it mentions how some left-handedness discrimination originates from the Latin language, because the word “sinistra originally meant ‘left’ but took on meanings of ‘evil’ or ‘unlucky’ by the Classical Latin era, and this double meaning survives in European derivatives of Latin, and in the English word ‘sinister’.”
Exactly the point I was about to make re sinister.
Not sure if it like fair meaning beautiful – conflating light skin with beauty (except ‘fair’ being seen as positive and ‘sinistra’ being negative)
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I am a left hander and I am proud of it .but when ever I go to a place of worship I am forced to offer things and/or take prasad with my right hand
in Hinduism the left hand is said to be far from god (I am a Hindu) in islam
its called unclean and in the Christian world the word left comes form the Saxon word ‘lyft ‘ that means weak .I have now made up my mind that if someone is troubled by my genes he will have trouble with me
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